In every movie you can find the principle of antagonism. There will always be something in the way of the main characters great desire.
James for many years played the antagonist. When I would talk about future goals he would be the one to ask the questions of, “how…why…but what about-” and so on. I had to come up with answers on the spot often leaving me feel warn out. The fragile thing about dreaming is that you don’t have all the answers at once, you figure it out day by day. I started to hide my dreams from him and told him as they happened, “By the way, I’m going to London next week.”
I soon realized he didn’t know how to dream. Those questions he was asking me, he was really asking himself. What I came to find out from reading, The Story by Robert McKee, James reached Negation of the Negation – the protagonist is it’s own antagonist. “When we lie to ourselves and believe it, truth vanishes and we’re at the Negation of the Negation.”
The truth is that anything is possible and the lie is dreaming is a waste of time. James sat back and witnessed me not only live my dreams of travel but saw it made me a better person to reach my goals. I knew James needed a friend like me.
Though the years of our friendship he started to ask questions how to travel. My advice, “The hardest part is buying your ticket to go.”
A few months ago he text me about a movie he had seen called, The Way. Its about a father finishing up his sons journey on the Camino de Santiago and goes on a great pilgrimage. James asked if I wanted to go, I told him I couldn’t. He said he was thinking about taking a leave of absence at his full time job as a maintenance worker to travel to Spain. I didn’t say if he should do it or not, I didn’t want to influence this important decision, but it was too late, he had been watching my life closely for the past five years.
He took the leave of absence, left the part time job at church and is now in Spain doing the Camino de Santiago pilgrimage. I don’t know how different he will come back, but I know his life will forever be changed. He discovered the power of dreaming.