Many warned me about the wedding day going by fast. The months prior I worked on every hour the day would hold. I prepared for the worst case scenario and over stocked on items like toilet paper. I’ve been thinking of this day since the first time I watched Cinderella on VHS. What I didn’t expect was to not “feel” like a bride, and after the ceremony I didn’t “feel” married. I felt the same as the day before. The thought never occurred to me when I was shooting other couples getting married, if they felt married. What does married feel like any way?
I must have expected to have this transforming moment at the altar where the heavens opened up and a dove would land on our hands, declaring “husband and wife.” The day was better than perfect, and it was amazing seeing our friends and family in one place.
After the wedding, when we drove off into the sunset. Friends and family invited us to their own wedding after party, but for Gus and I we had just crossed over into married land and we both felt like we just scammed everyone by giving them a party and now they all think we are married.
For the honeymoon, Gus took me to Big Sur in Central California. We drove up the cost and enjoyed the beauty of California’s coast.
Instead of a fancy hotel we stayed a nice couple’s back house from Airbnb. This was starting to feel like a classic Monica & Gus vacation.
We did some hiking, driving and cooking when it came to our meals. Gus as a child visited a waterfall at Big Sur, so we made our way to find it again.
Gus has an aunt in Capitola that we stopped by to visit. It was my first time seeing Capitola, I was captured by its unique Spanish style.
A few years ago we came to Monterey and couldn’t afford to visit the aquarium. As a wedding gift to Gus, I paid for the tickets.
Of course after.. We went and ate some fish for dinner overlooking the bay. That night we went to a fancy restaurant that we enjoyed way too much. Its going to be hard to go back to our Airbnb life.
Each day we noticed the difference of our dating life and now our married life. Our parents were now happy to leave us alone, and people seemed to respect us more when we would say, my husband this or my wife that.
I still don’t know about the married feeling, but one thing is for sure, we’re excited to be on this new road. Its going to take faith, and we’re willing to step out and cross over. If you asked Gus, he’d say “whatever, its no big deal.”